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10 Easy & Actionable Ways To Live Intentionally

Now that I'm in my 40s and my four children have all reached the different life milestones that come with age, I'm able to show up for myself more. Here are 10 actions I've taken to become more intentional in my life.


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It’s so important to allow yourself to dream and want and desire things for yourself. 

Pursuing a deep desire starts in your mind. It starts with an intentional thought. Here are 10 easy and actionable ways to live intentionally as a woman in her 40s wanting to create that dream life she’s always wanted.

Intentional thoughts and the commitment to taking action, leads to an intentional lifestyle.

If you take down any mental barriers that may be keeping you from actively pursuing a life you love, you’ll be able to move mountains. Let’s talk about it!


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1. Let Go Of Any Limiting Beliefs You Currently Hold

Have you ever said something out loud to yourself, really believing it to be the truth
Perhaps it was as simple as “I got up on the wrong side of the bed. It’s going to be a terrible day!”  Then you found yourself crying because your day ended up being terrible?
The law of attraction was set into motion by that single (negative) thought inside of your head. If what you think and what you say is true, then the law of attraction will do whatever it takes to show you that truth.
This goes for both positives and negatives. Be so careful, friend!
The great news is that we can TOTALLY change this and we absolutely hold ALL of the power by being intentional.
I often tell my four children that the only thing they can control fully is their thoughts, their mood, their response to every situation and their wants/desires for their life.

2. Self-Reflection is your best friend

It honestly wasn’t until I sat myself down for a heart-to-heart conversation and asked myself “Bri, what is it that you ACTUALLY want for your life? 

What does it look like, if you had all the money and resources in the world? 

Truly, honestly, what do you effing WANT?”

My point is this; Take some time to reflect on what you want and need out of life. Honestly. Make a list, and prioritize it. For you.

3. Prioritize your health

Make sure you’re taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually, sexually…I mean ALL the ways one can love themselves.

As a woman in her 40s, it’s so important to prioritize your health. After all, we want to enjoy this next decade of our life and many more beyond, right?

I found personally, that once I started carving out specific time for myself every day, committed to and prioritized keeping that appointment with myself. 

Once I started actively working on my health in every way, every single day, I started seeing results.

And then I got a little mad because I should have done this years ago. I cannot change the past, but I can change my future. 

I forgave myself for my lack of self care and love all this time. I then promised myself, saying it out loud as I looked at the woman staring back at me in the mirror, that I love myself intentionally, unapologetically.

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4. Get Rid Of Toxic Relationships

This might be one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to do for yourself.

It may seem impossible, but I promise you, if you’re honest about ALL of your current relationships, you can let go of the ones that aren’t serving you. 

Maybe you give and the recipient just takes? Maybe the interaction feels fake or forced? Maybe the other party just makes you feel all the negative emotions?

I don’t care who they are; You have to get super honest with yourself and let go of ANY relationships that make you feel like shit. 

Life is way too short to waste any more of your precious time on the people who don’t value your friendship and love as much as you value theirs. 

My mom passed away when she was just 42 years old. Now that I’m 40 myself, I view each and every day as a gift and as a blessing.

I let go of a lot of people in my life and I can actually breathe again. It’s incredible. And now I have more time for the people I love, who genuinely love me back.

Start by examining ALL of your relationships and decide if they are helping or hindering your life overall, your emotions and your time. 

5. Create a support circle of positive people

Now that you did the tough stuff in number 4, it’s time to lean on those few people you have declared worthy of you time, love and attention.

Out of the people you want to give your time to, who will help you stay motivated and accountable? 

If they value you as much as you value them, they will not hesitate a single moment to support you and cheer you on. 

This is something I know to be true. 

I’ve never had close relationships with people my age. My entire life I struggled with masking and being whoever someone else needed me to be.

I’m an autistic woman in her 40s and let’s just say that I really had no idea what an authentic friendship was until I met two of my soulmates later on in my adult life.

These two women, who I’m incredibly grateful for, never take me for granted, show me unconditional love even on my worst days, and are ALWAYS there to lift me back up after I fall. 

And I am that person for them.

Real relationships, no matter the circumstance or intensity, SHOULD lift you up, make you smile and there shouldn’t be an ounce of hesitation when asked “do they value me as much as I value them?”  

If you hesitate for even a single moment, it’s time to say goodbye and close that door.  

6. Manifest your ideal life

Take a deep breath, my friend! We did the tough stuff. 

Now that we’ve intentionally declared who and what we will give our love, time and energy to, we can move forward in visualizing the life we actually want for ourselves.

This is the FUN part!

I’m a true believer in The Law Of Attraction. What you think and what you say is the truth and so it will become your reality.

If you constantly say “I don’t have” or “I can’t” or put yourself down, those things will eventually become your truth.

You see, the law of attraction doesn’t understand the difference between a positive or a negative sentiment. 

It just hears you and then goes to work making whatever it is you think and say, become your literal truth.

Crazy, right? I would always limit my beliefs and put myself down and tell myself I didn’t have enough… 

It wasn’t until I learned how to change my verbiage and break those negative habits that I was able to see more joy, more blessings and more abundance. 

Manifesting the life you want will take time. 

You must truly visualize your ideal life,  create a simple and achievable action plan to make it happen and then BELIEVE you’ll be living that life in the very near future.

In fact, I want you to start acting like you’re already living that life. Start doing the things you visualize yourself doing in that dream lifestyle. 

Why wait? Just get started!

This is hands-down one of the most powerful practices of intentionalism I have EVER participated in and I swear by it.

7. Let's Make An Action Plan

Making a realistic plan for achieving your goals, no matter how big or small is key. Then you have to actually do something – take action – to see that positive change you’re looking for.

Perhaps you visualize yourself standing in your dream cut flower garden. You're wearing a beautiful sundress and floppy hat.

You're carrying the cutest basket and a pair of sheers. You are barefoot, enjoying your direct connection with mother nature and the earth.

You cannot simply wait a moment longer to make the most beautiful flower bouquet for your dining room table.

Okay, this is totally one of my dream lifestyle visualizations. You can totally steal it if you found yourself lost in this daydream, too. It’s a lovely thought, isn’t it?

Now that I have visualized and have mentally started manifesting this dream life for myself, I need to start taking action. 

I need to show myself that I truly believe this visualization to be true in the near future.

I can do this by making an action plan. In this instance, I made a list of things to do this coming Ohio Spring Season.

I will be choosing the area to design my dream cut-garden in. 

I will then draw a rough sketch and put together a visual moodboard on Pinterest to match my ideas.

I’ll make a list of steps I need to take to prep the area. I will make a list of tools I need. 

I’ll make a list of flowers I’d like to grow in that garden and write out what each type of flowers needs to thrive.

I’ll go outside and work on that space as much as possible until one day I will literally find myself LIVING that daydream.

I want us both, you and me, to practice this for absolutely every aspect of our dream life. And we have to promise each other to take baby steps to make it a reality. Deal?

a woman in a field of green, wearing a yellow sundress and holding a floppy hat in one hand with flowers in the other

8. Invest in yourself

Now that you’re actively practicing intentional living through manifestation visualization and action, it’s time to invest in yourself.

What new things do you need to learn in order to support the intentional life of your dreams? I’d start there and actually DID start there.

I have no idea how to garden outdoors. Indoor plants are my jam. Outdoor is unknown territory. 

So taking that daydream of mine from number 7 into account, I need to learn how to design, plant, grow and care for a cut flower garden.

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9. Set Some Boundaries

You’ve totslly got this! And to help even more, this next step is one you won’t want to skip.

It’s time to set some boundaries for yourself and be assertive in getting your needs met.

Your needs could be specific, meaning they will be a direct result of you living an intentional life as a woman in her 40s. 

This is the life you want, need, desire and believe will become your reality in the very near future.

Setting boundaries could look like this; limiting your time on social media or setting an alarm and waking early every day like I am currently doing.  

Maybe you limit television and other casual screen time activities to an hour or two a day. 

Setting boundaries could also mean positively defining items, actions and ideas that will work in your favor. 

Maybe you schedule more authentic time with the people who lift you up and limit any interaction that you still may need to have in your life, but would rather not have. 

Aka, the people you can’t avoid for whatever reason. 

10. Finally, CELEBRATE!

Celebrate your successes, no matter how big or how small, how important or mundane. They all count!

I think once you find yourself celebrating a lot, your overall vibe will be positive and your mindset will be happy and positive. You will feel better.

You will feel happy and even optimistic. You’ll feel motivated to continue manifesting and visualizing the exact intentional life you want for yourself.

And you’ll continue to take ACTION because you will believe that the life you want will become your reality.

Now here’s the most important part for these 10 ways to live intentionally as a woman in her 40s – are you ready – don’t be afraid to take risks. 

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Have a beautiful day ahead and remember, the intentional life of your dreams is right there waiting for you to take it!

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